It’s really tough sometimes to decide whether to speak to someone. I felt so alone and like I was the only one this was happening to so why would anyone understand. I thought I would be the one that got into trouble and people would judge me for what had happened.
But things got so bad I had no choice. I’ve since found out there are loads of people who can offer support but at first just reach out and speak to someone you feel most comfortable with.
It could be:
- A Friend/ Parent / carer
- Support agency like Childline or Barnado’s
Since I started talking about my experience, I’ve realised that the relationship I was in wasn’t healthy. It’s not normal for your boyfriend to make you feel scared, get you to do things you don’t want to.
My so called boyfriend also used to try and control everything I did, who I should speak to, what to wear and made me keep secrets. If you’re reading this, I guess you might be feeling that something isn’t right. The best advice I can give you is: Speak to someone – they won’t judge you but will want to help.
Don’t stay with someone who scares, controls or intimidates you. It’s hard to walk away but it’s not love, you deserve better. Change your phone number so they can’t communicate with you anymore and block them from social media.
If you are going anywhere, go with friends or a parent / carer and avoidplaces you know they hang out. Things will get better, take each day at a time. Make sure you get help from others and don’t suffer alone…